I am still afew years away from my 30th birthday. Yet, there seems to be alot of focus on that year for women, & the older I get, I can understand why; its a goodbye to your 20’s, which alot of people view as your soul-searching decade….the 10 years you can go from still getting away with acting like a kid to when you begin to plant the seeds for your future. So much seems to be expected of women in their 20s, & alot of us experience many changes in that era. Some of my good friends who have hit the 30 mark have already wed, started a family, wed & divorced, began their career, lost their job, have dealt with un-wanted pregnancies & handled many other life changing incidents.
Since my last birthday, I have found myself falling into cliches of women that I never thought I would…whether it be not quick to announce my age, fudging on my age (more as a joke…I hope?!), thinking of myself as a Cougar if I flirt with a younger guy or quipping, “God, you’re young!” when someone tells me they’re 18 or 20. I have been thinking alot more about things, too….Mary+thinking=not always a good thing! But, there have been some changes in my life & my family’s these past few years…my Aunt suddenly passed away at only 61, my Mother got quite ill, I have had some health issues & of course, I moved from a somewhat isolated life to life in LA.
I think the death of my Aunt reminded me how short life is, & I took many trips down memory lane as my Aunt was the photographer of the family; I even asked my Mom recently, why didn’t you take more pictures of me growing up?! & she said its because she knew Aunt Jo Anne was doing so, she even took all the photos for my parents wedding. With all her belongings being scattered & given among the family, I have received dozens upon dozens of photographs of my youth; from my Mother holding me after giving birth to me, my 1st Birthday, to trips to Disneyland & random days at her home, she truly did chronicle my childhood & its reminded me how precious it is to take pictures to recall your memories.
As I have gotten older, I also have such a better appreciation for what everybody goes through in life….things that have been hard for me to deal with, I find comfort when I look around me & see I am not the only one struggling. If anything, I am super lucky & blessed & am shown how great my life is when I see what so many people I care about are going through & have overcome.
Recently, when I was waiting to use the internet to print something at the library (perhaps that should be on my to-do list before I am 30: get my own printer??), I came across an article in a womens magazine: 30 Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know by the Time She’s 30. It got me thinking about writing this post, so I tore out the article for reference (Shhhh…). You can read it at this link: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/04/24/turning-30-30-things-every-woman-should-have-and-should-know_n_1447368.html
Most of it, is great advice & I think I already have some of the tips down. It also got me thinking, should I make a bucket list for the things to do before I am 30?! It could be fun. Some things I know I want to accomplish are….visit more of the 50 states, get back to NYC & pay $25 to climb the top of The Empire State Building (But….anybody have any coupons so I really don’t have to pay $25?!??), visit more of my friends who are not local & I don’t see enough, get back involved more with theatre, own a dog, meet more people & new friends, make more money, help more people, volunteer more & stay healthy:)
I think 30 shows you you’re not immortal…I already am feeling that, so I know I will only think that more by 30.
What is on your to-do list before 30? Or, if you’re 30 or over, what do you think you have learned along the way? Please share with me! xo